Get the goods on joining the 'Backdoor Betty' club. Hilda Hutcherson, author of Pleasure: A Women's Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need, and Deserve , loves sex toys, believes the world is much too porno-phobic, and thinks more women should give anal sex a try. All guys seem to want it , while all girls seem to hate it. But Dr. Hutcherson believes that more women might actually find out that they like it if they give it a try. Women who don't enjoy anal sex, she says, are probably doing it wrong. What kind of questions should you be asking, and what should you make yourself aware of before trying it? Intrigued, I scheduled a consultation with Dr. Here are important answers to 19 of the most "pressing" questions you might have about how to have anal sex, straight from a doctor.
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2. There are official anal sex rules?
The best thing that you can do when it comes to convincing a girl to have anal sex with you is to reassure her that is will be a very pleasurable experience. You should also make a point of telling her that lots of other girls have anal sex with guys and that they thoroughly enjoy it. The more you reassure her in this way, the more likely she is to try it out with you. If you want to make sure that the anal sex you engage in with your girl is truly pleasurable for her, it is essential that you use plenty of lube. Choose a water-based lubricant that will make the act of having anal sex as smooth and painless as possible for her.
1. I'm pretty sure the butt wasn't made to be penetrated. Is anal sex bad for you?
Despite increasing pop culture coverage, anal sex is still heavily stigmatized. While this might be true for some women, assuming it goes for all women is completely unfair. Woman A: It honestly does hurt, be prepared, and use lots of lube if you want an easier time. Woman B: At times, it can be uncomfortable, but I don't recall that it ever really hurt. I've had partners who are very attentive and listen to my needs, so I've never experienced pain. There are times, however, when a larger penis may cause cramping.
And the truth is… anal sex gets a very bad rap these days. For this reason, a lot of girls are hesitant to try it. The thing is, it can be all those things, but when it's done right, it can also feel amazing—for BOTH of you. And what's amazing is that you don't need to have a long conversation about it, or wait for weeks to her to warm up to it. In fact, quite often, this works to get her to suggest anal sex to you first… as if it's her idea. It's not nearly as rare as you might expect. But before I tell you exactly how you are going to pull this off, I should tell you who I am….