I know you got a zillion replies, and I have not read them. Real love just happens. I am trying to figure out how to go on in life and discover myself again. It is crucial to recognize that Mormonism has elements of belief, practice, and custom that work to make interfaith marriages especially difficult and inconvenient for both spouses. You've stated that she had numerous guys break up with her after she took sex off the table. But my choice seems to be build a life so I am not lonely all the time or stay at home waiting for him to have time for me. Before it started he got me a puppy that I maybe didn't really want to keep me company to help deal with the loneliness, so at least hopefully he understands. Having married over the course of my life not one but two wonderful non-Mormon men one Jewish and one low-church ProtestantI can say that my own spirituality has been profoundly deepened and enriched by the perspective that these two God-fearing and spiritually mature people offered me, and by my participation in the observances of their traditions. And to top things off, last night I caught him cheating. We don't have many nights out and he does sleep when he can but he has a surgeon's ego and so being great in bed is a priority for him.